Turn Poison into Honey

The main reason for this blog is to be able to turn all the poisonous junk I’ve gone through into something I can use to help others. Turning your poison into honey means it’s our choice what we do with all the problems in our lives. This realization might hit you like cold water right now so let me explain.

We cannot help what happens to us most of the time, but we can decide what we do afterward. Yes, our life problems are POISON and they are painful but we can choose what we do with them. For me, it was starting this blog with the hopes that one day I can help one person. To help one person may not seem like a big deal, but it is because I could’ve been that person and God knows I would’ve welcomed help with open arms.

My mission may be small to begin, with but like the butterfly effect, it can ripple by the way we all handle our poison. If one person gets it and tells someone else, then we can all do our little part pollinating ourselves with the knowledge that it is our choice what we do with our poison.

WE DECIDE WHAT WE DO WITH OUR LIVES.

Little known fact: we decide what we do with our lives. Not a big shocker, but how many of us go through life knowing this but never really believing it, let alone doing it? I raise my hand! To be fair, I only found this out when I studied Psychology in college and I thought I knew the secret to a happy life. So you’re thinking this probably meant I was set for a life of happiness right?

WRONG!

Knowing how to do something doesn’t mean you actually do it. You know how they say “it’s easier said than done?”, well in this case it’s easier known than done. I can remember sitting in one of my Psychology classes listening to my professor speak about the signs of abuse and thinking hmm that sounds familiar but I’m gonna ignore that for now. You see, it was easier to just do nothing about it, so I ignored it.

HOW DID THAT WORK OUT FOR ME? Not so good, I learned that ignoring something doesn’t make it go away! With time it can actually get bigger and bigger until it makes life a living hell. Sure, maybe I wasn’t in the best life possible at the time but it was what it was and there was nothing I could do about it.

AGAIN WRONG! Man, I was wrong a lot.

You can’t cover the sun with one finger.

Knowing we have a choice changes everything. EVERYTHING! How old was I until I finally figured this out? I was 32 to be exact. For years I battled this feeling, knowing but not doing. It’s the worst life to live. I felt like I was a prisoner in my own life, being told what to do and when to do it? Sounds familiar? Yep, it’s the opposite of fun, it’s a prison. And in this prison, you get fed poison and this poison sickens you to the point where you can’t think for yourself, you can’t act for yourself anymore and you become a victim to yourself.

A VICTIM TO YOURSELF! This is deep.

This is the cold water I was talking about. This is the ugly truth. We have always been in control but we didn’t know or didn’t do anything about it. We have always had the power, but we told ourselves we didn’t and we believed it. We are victims to our own minds. We have no one to blame for our decisions but ourselves. In my 30s I finally stood up for myself, I finally DID something about it. Knowing is NOT enough, you have to ACT.

AGAIN, KNOWING IS NOT ENOUGH.

This is why I started this blog journey, to turn my poison into honey. To share what I’ve learned throughout my life journey through a lot of reading, a lot of learning, and a lot of living. After years of finally finding my Authentic self, I have decided to turn all the hardships I’ve gone through along with all the knowledge I’ve learned along the way to help others.

What I love about women is our own innate desire to nurture and empower others. We are mothers, it’s what we do naturally! Now that we know we possess this honey inside us, we are not going anywhere. Like bees, we must come together for a better community of confident women feeling loved and accepted for who we are. We will no longer crave the shallow feeling of attention from men when we are already getting it from our own selves. That’s the power behind our movement.

Here we go bees. We need to turn our poison (struggles) into HONEY (love, respect, kindness) and share it with others. Like bees, one might not be strong enough, but we become a force to be reckoned with when we come together.

THERE IS NOTHING MORE POWERFUL THAN A GROUP OF CONFIDENT WOMEN.